Posts by Faded

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Ex-JWs In The Dating Scene - It's A Whole New Game

by pale.emperor in

since leaving watchtower it still strikes me as odd how little i knew the real world and how it works.

i thought i knew how it worked but it turns out i didnt.

as jws we were always "courting with a view to marriage".you go on one date with a girl and everyone's expecting you're gonna marry her?

Faded

I have a lot to say on this subject. When I finally started dating (and having sex) at 27, I was such a weird abnormality. My experience & maturity level was the equivalent of a teenage girl (and an early teenager no less), but the men I wanted to date had been dating 10-20 years. You truly don't have any peers of your same age with a similar level of experience or expectations.

I still too this day (10+ years) later, have a hard time with my emotional maturity and expectations compared to the guys I am dating. I still have a lot to make up for, but I still deal with the guilt, fear, etc that comes with our background. I can have sex without commitment occasionally, but i'm still not as active as most single people my age.

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My mums dying she refuses blood transfusion...the horror.

by Witness 007 in

mum has a mild form of lukeimia if she took blood like normal people she could live to be 100. but no, anointed sisters dont compromise jehovah wont allow it.

so here i am moving to sydney for one month going to hospital everyday putting my life on hold to watch my mother die slowly.

watching her gasp for air, struggle to breath.

Faded

My deepest sympathies.

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What Simple Pleasures Do You Enjoy Since Leaving Watchtower?

by pale.emperor in

what simple pleasures do you enjoy since leaving watchtower?

here's some of mine, in no particular order:.

a cigar: i dont smoke cigarettes at all, but i do enjoy a good cigar from time to time.

Faded

Having sex (not married here). But just good sex.

lol

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What Simple Pleasures Do You Enjoy Since Leaving Watchtower?

by pale.emperor in

what simple pleasures do you enjoy since leaving watchtower?

here's some of mine, in no particular order:.

a cigar: i dont smoke cigarettes at all, but i do enjoy a good cigar from time to time.

Faded

Smoking a joint.

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My mums dying she refuses blood transfusion...the horror.

by Witness 007 in

mum has a mild form of lukeimia if she took blood like normal people she could live to be 100. but no, anointed sisters dont compromise jehovah wont allow it.

so here i am moving to sydney for one month going to hospital everyday putting my life on hold to watch my mother die slowly.

watching her gasp for air, struggle to breath.

Faded

This really touches my heart. I lost a parent to leukemia, but the issue of blood vs. no blood wasn't a real factor (the strain had a 3% recovery rate in the age group and by the time diagnoses was made, there was no treatments available. Blood would have just prolonged things for a bit but there was no saving).

The HLC were there in the beginning when it was clear there was a major red blood cell deficit and there would be a lot of pressure for blood. But once we had a diagnosis, they pretty much went away and we were left to let our loved one die (a tortured painful death but at least we didn't have the vultures hanging around).

I'm so sorry you're going through this. These are terrible times you are dealing with and I'm sending you strength and healing thoughts.

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chasing me for a report

by Phoebe in

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friends

i'm fairly new on here and i've told a lot of my story but to recap, after 60 odd years i've stopped going to the meetings.

my husband had already left the truth years ago and my children didn't become jws.(phew!).

i had a horrendous childhood growing up as a witness which included sexual assault by a close relative, also a jw.

Faded

I don't have much further to add to your question, but I have to step in here and say I truly hope you reported the abuser. Even if the statute of limitations (if there is one in these circumstances) has passed, he needs to be investigated. And he may have continued abusing.

All the best to you. Enjoy your new found freedom.

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Dealing with Elderly Parents Who Still Believe the jw Religion is the truth

by lancelink in

i left the religion back in 2008 right after my mother died,( the total lack of natural love/ affection was the final straw for me).. but my dad has become more and more focused on doing the wt bidding.. it just amazes me how he gushes on and on about the last days, his new bible studies, and meeting parts .

but yet he makes no effort to have any type of relationship with his grandkids, there are 5 of them , non are witnesses.

they are the children from several different sisters of mine, and myself.. so how do you deal with the witness stuff always being presented in conversations?.

Faded

I have the same challenges with my mom.

I appreciate the comments. I'm pretty much doing what's suggest. Don't engage, be peaceable, etc. It's really unfortunate though because you don't really have much to say (that she won't turn in a JW direction).

So our relationship is superficial. She doesn't truly know her daughter. And I care about my mom but we're just not very close at all. And you're always missing that relationship that you could have had if not for this damned religion.

My father is gone and sometimes I feel like such a disappointment to him. I'm unsure about the immortal soul (another gift from the JW's - you don't them but can't believe anyone else's theories either), but I just feel he's ashamed & disappointed with me.

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What are the chances of getting another Raymond Franz default from head office ?

by Chook in

all regimes get defectors and some are more vocal than others..

Faded

They do. Johnny the Bethalite.

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Man answers the door naked when JW's appear..

by James Mixon in

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friends

http;www.worlstarhipop.com/videos/video.php?v=wshhmg115hx2qp8inyuo.went too far, man answers the door naked when jw's appear..https//www.youtube.com/watch?v=akj2w94el_a...oh hell search, went to far, man answers the door naked when jw's appear, a young black male......it was e-mail to me and i'am using the same address but not working for me,hopefully you will find it.

a young jw child was present, not good.......

Faded

I probably would have left much sooner if a someone as attractive as he is had exposed himself to me at the door. Alas, I only got a chubby pimply faced teenager who tried this with me once.

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No more official visits to disfellowshipped & disassociated ones

by AverageJoe1 in

new letter today (please visit avoidjw.org for a copy of the official letter and yes, i also noticed they got the date wrong!).

february 28, 2017. to all bodies of elders.

re: visiting disfellowshipped or disassociated individuals.

Faded

Thankfully the elders around here got the memo years ago.

Except for the "Return to Jehovah" campaign, they haven't been here.